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Carla was a wife, and a working mother of three young
She turned to the Web for information on parenting and
Within a month, she was scouring message boards.
"It went really quick," she said.
She moved to chat rooms, where the people she met no
longer talked about health and children.
"It's amazing how people would get so entwined with
one another," she said.
She found friends, and an online lover.
"I instantly, emotionally connected with him and
felt like I was in a relationship with him. I told him constantly that
I loved him and that I wanted to be with him," she said.
It was her first Internet-affair.
"As soon as someone says, 'Oh, you're gorgeous...
Oh, I want to be with you,' and expressing devotion and love, people without
self esteem, it just gets them," Carla said.
Carla offered to throw her life away and move to South
Dakota to be with this man -- a complete stranger.
"There were some pretty dark times that still kind
of shock me that I went there," she said.
They broke it off after nine months. But Carla went to
an even darker place. Another cyber-affair became real.
She flew to Kentucky to meet and have sex with another
"I spent 23 hours with him not knowing who he was
or anything about him. I came out alive, luckily," she said.
"I think those folks have a hole in their heart,"
said Redmond therapist Jay Parker, "And they're really just looking
for something to fill up the hole. And the computer is safe and its in
their home and they don't have to go anywhere."
Parker is Carla's therapist. He specializes in online
addictions, and says the Internet makes it far too easy for married people
"It made it affordable," Parker said. "It
made it and accessible and she was anonymous."
In many cases, the marriage is already in trouble, and
one partner is seeking attention.
"People who get into it at first think of it as
harmless, benign and not immoral," Parker said.
But a new study by a University of Florida researcher
says many online affairs are harmful. One out of three married people
interviewed turned their online flirting into a real-life affair.
"I had one woman client who had a hundred ongoing
affairs online simultaneously. She had files for each man," he said.
Jay thinks addicts get hooked on that new romance feeling
-- a rush even without the touch.
"The attention I was getting online kept me going,"
For Carla, the attention of one online lover was not
"(My husband) would go to bed without me, thinking
I'd be in shortly... and then I would get on the computer and the next
thing I know it's 4 o'clock in the morning... or 5 and I need to go to
work," she said.
Eventually, it destroyed her life. Her husband discovered
her secrets, and she lost her marriage and her kids.
Her addiction nearly destroyed her.
"She was depressed... and suicidal," Parker
That's when Carla finally got help. After a year of intense
counseling she got her kids back, but not her marriage.
"Throw the computer away... and get help,"
It's her advice to anyone thinking of going down the
same path to give up the cyber-world, and come back to the real one.
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