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Are you Looking for Extramarital Affairs, then read this information to discover the history of people looking for extramarital affairs. Research shows that long ago, clans and tribes were living in small social structures. Many had some type of marriage ceremony.

History of Extramarital Affairs?

It appears that since we began living in structured social groups, man stuck to the belief that formal unions of two people work best for society. Within different societies, independent unions of two people, were considered the best way to secure food and shelter, defend against outside aggressors, and raise offspring. As societies evolved, the marriage bond took on increased significance within each culture. One of the most universal aspects of the marriage union to be perpetuated cross-culturally was monogamy. Yet despite this proclivity towards marriage, and insistence that the marriage partners remain monogamous, human beings have been Looking for Extramarital Affairs throughout history.

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We know that "Extramarital Affairs" have been going on since the advent of the socially sanctioned union. Our historical concern about Extramarital Affairs is evident in the inclusion of Extramarital Affairs as one of the sins mentioned in the Ten Commandants. The fact that Extramarital Affairs are wrong, even considered to be a sin, has been ingrained into us through our social, cultural and religious upbringing. Yet despite the social and religious disapproval of them, they have been an ever present phenomenon for us to deal with.
So why are so many people having Extramarital Affairs despite such powerful social and religious doctrines against them? The fact is that there have been as many reasons given for Extramarital Affairs as there are people engaging in them. Some of these include dissatisfaction with the marital relationship, emotional emptiness, need for sexual variety, inability to resist new sexual opportunity, anger at a partner, no longer being "in love", alcohol or drug addiction, growing apart, desire to get a partner jealous... to name just a few.

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Some people have even said that human beings simply can't maintain monogamous sexual relationships over long periods of time because it "isn't natural".
If this is true, if there is a biological reason preventing us from accomplishing our goal of remaining in a monogamous relationship, than we are condemning ourselves to continued personal and social failure by continuing to pursue these types of relationships. On the other hand, despite the fact that Extramarital Affairs have been a problem for married couples throughout history, and that there appears to be an increasing number of Extramarital Affairs at this time, we probably know that human nature is not to blame. At least not in the traditional sense as stated above.

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Maybe our proclivity towards Extramarital Affairs is more a symptom of our inability to find satisfaction in our long term relationships because of the expectations we place on them in the first place, then any biological drive towards multiple sexual partners. Possibly our inability to remain "in love" with our partners as we grow and mature and our life circumstances change is what drives us to look for another intimate relationship.
The loss of the high level of passion and desire that existed in the beginning of the relationship may result in boredom or develop into a feeling of apathy towards the partner. Combined with all of the other stresses and complexities of long term relationships, such as financial problems, raising children, job changes, death of family members, change in status, etc., the loss of passion may lead to a desire to rediscover it in the start of a new relationship.

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So it may not be the desire to experience the "new" or "forbidden" sexual relationship, but rather the need to re-experience the intense level of passion and the feeling of being "in love" and all which that implies, that leads to Extramarital Affairs. Therefore, Extramarital Affairs may be the result of an inability to maintain a satisfying emotional relationship with a partner over a long period of time, and not due to a need for sexual variety. Possibly our need for intense emotional experiences leads to a desire to rediscover the feelings that come at the start of a new love relationship. Whether it is our expectation that passion remain or our inability to maintain passion easily in long term relationships, the loss of it appears to be a major factor in the initiation of Extramarital Affairs. Once initiated, the high level of passion experienced in Extramarital Affairs appears to be a powerful component in the maintaining them.

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If the interpersonal relationship was satisfying for both partners, and passion was still an integral part of the relationship, the need to experience diversified or new sexual partners may not exist. Respondents to my research clearly indicate that their diminished "feelings" for their partner led them to become involved in the extramarital relationship. Specifically, many people report feeling unappreciated, ignored, sexually frustrated and no longer desirable to their partners. They almost invariably say that they are no longer "in love" with their partners and lack the level of intimacy that they once had. In almost all cases the married member of an affair has reported to me that they feel "more alive", "more sexually appealing" and "more appreciated" by their lovers than by their spouses.

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As a matter of fact, my research indicates that Extramarital Affairs based solely on desire for new sexual partners is a very small percentage of the total number of Extramarital Affairs. Specifically, of the over 3,800 respondents that have completed my questionnaire, over 90% have reported that the affair is based on emotional needs not being met within the marital relationship, and not sexually motivated reasons. Therefore, it appears that the allure of Extramarital Affairs is not new sexual experiences, nor are they due to any biological inability to remain monogamous, but rather what drives many individuals to become involved in Extramarital Affairs is a lack of emotional fulfillment within the existing relationship.

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