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(from Cambridge International Dictionary of English)

cuckold
noun [C]
DATED DISAPPROVING
a man whose wife deceives him by having a sexual relationship with another man

cuckold
verb [T]
DATED DISAPPROVING
If a man or woman is cuckolded, their wife or husband has a sexual relationship with another person.
He came back from a three-month trip abroad to discover that he had been cuckolded. [T]

Advice given to those experiencing the effects of an extramarital affair, differs substantially depending who you are . . .

are you the person having or considering having an extramarital affair? - click here

do you suspect or know that your partner or spouse is having an extramarital affair? - click here General information about extramarital submissive

extramarital submissive advice advice about Why Do People Have submissive?

This is often the first question people ask when they learn of their partner's or spouses extramarital affair. the answers they come up with are usually based on personal blame. They blame themselves, their partner, their relationship, or the third party. They see it strictly as a personal problem, a personal failure of the people involved. This is a very simple explanation for a very complex question.

Usually there are three different kinds of forces that are working together:

. Forces within the individual that pull them toward submissive

Attraction: sex, companionship, admiration, power, Novelty, Excitement, risk, or challenge, Curiosity, Enhanced self-image, Falling in love

Forces within the individual that push them toward submissive:

Desire to escape or find relief from a painful relationship, Boredom, Desire to fill gaps in an existing relationship, Desire to punish one's partner, Need to prove one's attractiveness or worth, Desire for attention

Societal influences:

submissive are glamorized in movies, soap operas, romance novels, and TV shows of all kinds. Public disclosure of public figures having submissive is headline news because we are fascinated and titillated by hearing of others' submissive.

People are bombarded with images of women as sex objects in advertising and marketing campaigns. Over and over, the message to men is that the good life includes a parade of sexy women in their lives. Women inadvertently buy into this image and strive to achieve it.

The lack of good sex education and the existence of sexual taboos combine to make it difficult for most partners to talk honestly about sex.

As teenagers we get conditioned in deception when it comes to sex engaging in sexual activity while hiding it from our parents.

The code of secrecy is a major factor in submissive because it provides protection for the person having submissive and leads them to believe they won't get caught.

Bottom Line: There is no ONE single reason a person has an affair. There are usually many reasons, including some of the forces that pull them toward submissive and some of the forces that push them toward submissive, combined with the influence of the general factors in society that contribute to submissive.


Who Has submissive?

We tend to think that only bad people have submissive or only people in bad relationships. But no one is immune from an affair.

Monogamy is something most people say they believe in and want for themselves. Every survey ever done on this question shows a high percentage of people think monogamy is important to marriage and that submissive are wrong. But a belief in monogamy as an ideal doesn't prevent large numbers of people from having extramarital submissive. Most people don't intend to have an affair and most people don't think it will happen to them but it does.

Bottom Line: No one is immune from having submissive disrupt their lives or the lives of those they care about; they happen to all kinds of people, in all walks of life.

How Prevalent are submissive?

Conservative estimates are that percent of men and percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved since it's unlikely that all the men and women having submissive happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having submissive (or percent) are married to men not included in the percent having submissive, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately percent of all marriages.

But we need to take a closer look at the statistics on submissive to determine what they can contribute to an understanding of our sexual patterns. While submissive happen in non-marital, committed relationships as well as within marriage, most of the statistics deal only with extramarital submissive. These statistics began with Kinsey's reports in the 's and early 's. Kinsey's samples included, men and showed that by age, percent of the men had experienced extramarital sexual intercourse. Kinsey's original samples of, women showed that by age, percent of the women had experienced extramarital sexual intercourse.

Later studies dealing exclusively with men indicate a continuous increase in the number of men having extramarital submissive. The increase for women having submissive has been even more significant. Some of the statistics, both for men and for women, are extremely high and legitimately debated, but many people question any statistics on extramarital submissive, arguing that statistics are unreliable and confusing and that no one knows precisely how prevalent submissive are. While there are slight differences in the estimates based on clinical studies and questionnaires, the bottom line is compelling in showing an extremely high (and rising) incidence of extramarital submissive.

Why it helps to know about the prevalence of submissive:
For the person who knows their spouse has had an affair and is still trying to understand why, acknowledging the prevalence of submissive in our society can help them put it in a more realistic perspective. Understanding just how many others face the same situation (regardless of who they are or who they're married to) can help break the sense of being so alone, isolated, or singled out for this experience. It can help overcome the feeling of why me?

People who have not yet faced this issue, either in their own lives or with their friends or family, would do well to start with a realistic picture of the frequency of submissive in society as a whole. It's not that the sheer frequency means it will happen to any specific person, but it does say a lot about the kind of support to expect from society for remaining monogamous vs. having submissive. We need to make a commitment to face the reality of submissive and address the issue in a more responsible way, both individually and as a society.

Bottom Line: Most of us expect monogamy to be a normal part of marriage or any committed relationship. The reality is that monogamy is not the norm.

Is Monogamy Natural ?

People often get caught up in a debate over whether people are naturally monogamous or naturally have submissive. That's a useless debate, as was clearly expressed by Jessie Bernard in her classic work, The Future of Marriage:

Millions of words have been used to document both the naturalness and the unnaturalness of monogamy. The question...is, actually, unanswerable. We will never know if there is anything intrinsic in human nature that limits the ways the sexes can relate to one another because no one has ever survived outside of any culture long enough to teach us. Human nature seems to be able to take almost any form of marriage or unable to take any form.
We can only understand monogamy and submissive in a societal context, in terms of the attitudes of society as a whole. Normally, when we try to understand why submissive happen we look only at the reasons why a person might want to have an affair, such as the excitement of sexual variety. But this doesn't explain why submissive happen. People may want to have submissive for a wide range of reasons, but their decision to act on those desires is affected by the values and actions of those around them.

submissive happen in so many marriages that it's unreasonable to think they're due solely to factors within each marriage. Whatever the personal factors involved in submissive, they are more than outweighed by the significant, powerful, and pervasive societal factors. We have a responsibility to learn more about our role, individually and as a whole, in supporting the societal factors that contribute to submissive.

Bottom Line: Debating the naturalness or unnaturalness of monogamy is a way of avoiding dealing directly with this issue. Regardless of whether or not it's natural, it's happening; so starting from there, there is much to learn.

How Can submissive be Prevented?

Prevention is possible only through a commitment to Honesty, not a promise to be monogamous.

Definition of Honesty: not withholding relevant information.

What won't work:
Couples can't avoid submissive by assuming monogamy or even by promising monogamy without discussing the issue. And they can't avoid submissive by making threats as to what they would do if it happened. Either of these paths creates a cycle of dishonesty. In either case, people don't feel free to admit being attracted to someone else. If they don't admit these attractions, then they won't admit being tempted. If they don't admit being tempted, then they certainly won't admit it if and when they finally act on the attraction. The effect on the relationship is to cause it to be filled with jealousy and suspicion, as well as making it less likely that it will be monogamous.

What will work:
On the other hand, by specifically making a commitment to honesty, both partners realize that attractions to others are likely, indeed inevitable, no matter how much they love each other. So they engage in ongoing honest communication about the reality of the temptations and how to avoid the consequences of acting on those temptations. The effect on the relationship is to create a sense of closeness and a knowledge of each other that replaces suspicion with trust, making it more likely that it will be monogamous.

Why honesty works:
The process of discussing attractions actually decreases the likelihood of acting on them, because it focuses on the potential problems of acting on them; whereas when a person is tempted to have an affair, their private thoughts usually dwell only on the potential pleasures. There's an added fascination and excitement about feelings that are kept secret as compared to those that are acknowledged and discussed. Shedding the cold light of day on secret desires goes a long way toward diminishing their power.

Who can use this process?
This process of acknowledging attractions and discussing how they are to be handled is one that both married and unmarried couples need to address prior to any problem with submissive. Constantly wondering and worrying about this issue creates a strain between partners that may prevent their developing a sense of trust in each other. They need to talk through their feelings about monogamy and attractions to other people on an ongoing basis as their relationship develops.

Bottom Line: There are no guarantees. The issue of monogamy is never settled once and for all. It requires ongoing honest discussion of the issue. This makes it possible for a couple to feel they really know each other, making it more likely they can trust that they won't deceive each other, thus preventing submissive.

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Affairs Fact

30% Of online relationships evolve into real-world affairs. A staggering nine out of ten women in relationships flirt with other men on a regular basis.

Affairs Fact

Studies find that more than one in five men do have an affair, at least once in their lives, and that women are now about as likely as men to cross the line.

Affairs Fact

In a survey 98 percent of men and 80 percent of women surveyed reported having a sexual fantasy about someone other than their partner at least once in the previous two months. Bet it's higher!

Affairs Fact

The chance of a married woman having an affair is highest within the first five years and falls off gradually with time. Men have two high-risk phases, one during the first five years of marriage and, the second, after the 20th year.




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